Churning Over Family Issues


When her days to give birth were completed, behold, there were twins in her womb. The first came out red, all his body like a hairy cloak, so they called his name Esau. Afterward his brother came out with his hand holding Esau’s heel, so his name was called Jacob. Isaac was sixty years old when she bore them.  Genesis 25:24-26

         What Esau had, the privilege of being the firstborn, he cared little about and ended up trading his inheritance for an indulgence in a red meat stew.  What Jacob wanted, he didn’t have, and ended up using deception to gain what was not his.  Each had different cravings.  What they so desperately desired was in the hands of a brother.

Sounds familiar, doesn’t it?  This contrast of interests and personalities is much like Cain and Abel.  That didn’t end well either.

Nothing stirs up our flesh like family rivalry.  The personality and gifts of one child is celebrated in the family more than the uniqueness of another child.  A parent favors one while the other parent favors another.  From birth, affections and privileges can be divided.  It would appear that harmony among the children is doomed from the start.

Some siblings spend their lives at odds.  The tension is never resolved.  Family inheritances only add to further alienate relationships.  Even in old age, the stuff of youth is rehearsed.  A brother or sister is despised all the way to a deathbed.  And let’s face it; all of our past seems like yesterday which keeps the wounds fresh.

What can heal cravings for love, respect, favor, and wealth?  How can life-long prejudices dissolve?  Someone new must arrive on the scene to offer things greater in value than old cravings.  Someone has ~ and His name is Jesus.  Healing for severely fractured families is possible but only as they come together to love and worship Jesus.  As each one’s appetite is transformed by seeing the beauty and glory of Jesus Christ, the stuff that has comprised their arguments seems miniscule.  Every family member can come to realize that what they have been fighting for is a trinket compared to the gifts Jesus offers freely.  And, He is no respecter of persons.

Perhaps you have a life-long angst inside of you regarding other members of your family.  All you have to do is think about a person and your insides are churning.  Being loved by Jesus and becoming emotionally engaged with your spiritual birthright and coming inheritance melts away resentment.  What you seek, you already have in Jesus.  It may be hope deferred, but it is real and it is yours.


Open our spiritual eyes to see the value of You and everything You long to give to Your children.  Help us re-orient so that our hands are clutching You instead of things that perish. Amen

Journal Question:  What family unrest still eats at you?  What is so unfair that the hurt eats away at your flesh like a cancer?  What are you trying to extract from another family member that you could abandon for what Jesus offers?  Explore this in prayer and understand that today can be the day you turn a page in your history.

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