What Does It Mean To Be A Helper?

Then the LORD God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.  Genesis 2:18  ESV

Lest any woman should feel insignificant because of how the word ‘helper’ has been unwrapped in our past, let the Word speak for itself today.  The word for helper is ‘ezer’; one who provides aid or relief, one who imparts strength.  Adam was incomplete without a counterpart who completed him.  The word does not imply someone who is inferior.  A helper is not less valuable than the one who is helped.  How can we be sure of this?  Hold on.  Are you ready?

God describes Himself as a helper, an Ezer.  Here’s just one example.    “Hear O LORD, the voice of Judah and bring him in to his people.  With your hands contend for him, and be a help (Ezer) against his adversaries.”  Deut. 33:7  It is used another 21 times in the Old Testament.

Everything I have described thus far is a brief summation of the scholarship of a woman in ministry named, Carolyn Custis James.  She is an award-winning author who thinks deeply about what it means to be a woman who loves Jesus in a post-modern world. She champions men and women working together in a messy and complicated world. 

Carolyn so beautifully teaches that a woman is a helper to the man.  She is his partner spiritually, bringing him her strengths.  She completes him in what he lacks.  He completes her in what she lacks.  Man does not carve out his path void of her input.  He thrives on her feedback.  He knows that left alone, he will not walk the path God has laid out for him successfully unless he plugs in her gifts.  Where he is weak, she is strong, and vice versa.

Being an ‘Ezer’ is who I am as an image-bearer of God.  Just as God comes alongside to strengthen and nurture, I model after my Creator to bring my strengths to the table. God asks me to do it in a non-threatening way, never to intimidate but to support. 

In whatever ways Christian cultures have diminished a woman’s worth, heal our souls.  Lift our heads. In Jesus’ name, Amen

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