WAITING FOR THE RIGHT MOMENT TO DIE
After this, Joseph was told, “Behold, your father is ill.” So he took with him his two sons, Manasseh and Ephraim. And it was told to Jacob, “Your son Joseph has come to you.” Then Israel summoned his strength and sat up in bed. Genesis 48:1-
How Jacob reacted when Joseph and his sons arrived at his bedside. He was very ill, near death, but their presence gave him an uncanny strength to finish what had been unfinished. He needed to give Joseph the birthright of the family and adopt Joseph’s two sons as his grandchildren. The future inheritance of Israel depended on this moment and Jacob knew it.
Have you known anyone who was near death and it was predicted they wouldn’t last much longer? Then, they hung on and refused to die. Something was unfinished. There was someone they needed to see; something they needed to say. When that person arrived, they had a moment when they gained their full faculties. Like Jacob, they rose up to have a needed conversation.
After moving to Georgia, I made a connection with an older saint named Iris. She became a prayer partner and spiritual mother to me. Our bond was as deep as family and because the foundation was spiritual, our connection was like iron. Iris was diagnosed with a rare and aggressive form of breast cancer. It took her life in a matter of weeks. I was out of town when she lay on her deathbed in a local hospital. I kept calling home to get an update on her but got the news that she was holding on beyond what anyone thought possible. When I got back into town, I went straight to the hospital to see her. I can’t say for certain that she was waiting to say goodbye to me but within an hour after visiting her, she died. I got to talk with her, sing to her, and express my thanks for all she had meant to me.
We will each say goodbye to someone we love. It’s inevitable. We should tuck away the truth of this reality. A person will hang on at the end because of something unfinished in their heart. Oftentimes, they are in a coma and can’t express what’s wrong. Families need to be prayerful and intuitive to realize what is happening. Otherwise, there will be needless suffering for everyone.
Is there unfinished business in your family? Things that need to be expressed that haven’t been said? Relationships that need to be reconciled that are currently estranged? The real tragedy is that we often waste the joy that could be ours if we made things right much earlier in life. The beside of a dying loved one is not the ideal place for family communication but if it’s the only option, it’s the crucial option. Loved ones should die in peace.
Lord, give spiritual intuition to any who need to know how to wrap up unfinished business with family. Amen