Category: Orphan Or Daughter

I will not leave you as orphans.  I will come to you.  John 14:18

I’ve often wondered if these words, spoken by Jesus to His disciples, confused them.  He was their Lord.  They were His friends so why refer to them as orphans?  The older I get, I don’t believe they were confused.  They had learned to depend on Him for everything.  He calmed the storms at sea.  He made food materialize out of nothing.  He rebuked the demonic and gave the dark spiritual world orders and parameters.  The thought of life without Him must have stirred up a panic inside their group.  What would they do now?  Who were they without Jesus?  How would they care for themselves without the spiritual power to do the miraculous when necessary?  They did not know, until this promise, that He would come to them in another form and put that same kingdom power within them. 

They battled orphan-like feelings just like we do when we feel like Jesus isn’t there to take care of us, whenever we feel like He’s distant.  Let’s jump into some definitions.

An Orphan ~ A child whose parents are dead and who is without care protection.  

An Orphanage ~ A residential place where orphans live.  They may have house parents in the facility but no child calls them Mommy and Daddy, because they’re not their real parents.   

A Spiritual Orphan ~ Someone who feels alone, trying to get their needs met the best way they can, not knowing how to receive the love and care of their Heavenly Father.  

The Spiritual Orphanage ~ Earth.  Spiritual orphans live dependent on the people of earth and the things earth offers. 

As you read the definition of a spiritual orphan and how that person forages off the land, does that describe your life?  Is there someone whose love you crave, whose love you are convinced you can’t live without?  Do you have a parent who, as of yet, has not expressed that they love you and are proud of you?  Perhaps the amount of their praise is stingy compared to how they relate to your other siblings.  I know many adults who are visiting assisted living facilities, daily,  trying to do whatever they have to do to get their parents to say they love them.  Listen, human beings are broken cisterns which hold no water.  By looking to the people of Earth, we relegate ourselves to an orphan’s plight which never ends well. 

Monday, I will begin with the first of ten orphan profiles.  Would you ask God to prepare your heart this weekend?  Without His Holy Spirit, we will not see ourselves.  We won’t recognize our great need.  We will be the orphan who is defensive and refuses to acknowledge he wants life any differently.  May it not be!  Perfect love and care is yours, in God, and within reach.  Your Father is asking you to put your arms down and stop fighting.  Begin now in prayer.

  For all the scriptures I’ve known but felt little, I’m asking Your Holy Spirit to prepare to write them on my heart.  Blow over my barren landscape.  Amen

“Very truly I tell you, no one can enter the kingdom of God unless they are born of water and the Spirit.”   John 3:5

I am born again into the kingdom of God by two agents; water ~ which is the Word of God and the Spirit ~ who opens my eyes to the Word so that I can understand it.  Preaching of the Word is not sufficient for a new birth.  It must be accompanied by the breath of the Spirit who moves over a darkened mind.

These two change agents are what is necessary for my eyes to be opened to my need for a Savior.  If I only read the Word, it is a strange language which seems to have no value.  Think about your favorite scripture; the one you’ve cherished for years, the one you’ve typed out, written on a card to a friend, highlighted and dated in your Bible, and perhaps even taped to your bathroom mirror.  You could write out that same verse for ten unbelievers and it would mean nothing.  They would be puzzled by how life-giving it is to you.  That’s because the wind of the Holy Spirit hasn’t opened their eyes.

There have been so many places in my heart that needed change.  There have been lies about God that held me hostage.  There have been areas where despair ruled and faith was absent.  I couldn’t understand why I didn’t have victory.  I memorized many verses in an attempt to bring the change I was seeking but the truth of them didn’t impact me.  I was confused but was too embarrassed to admit it.  How do you tell someone that the scriptures aren’t working for you!  My disappointment in my faith festered in secret.  If only I’d understood what Jesus was telling Nicodemus.  It is the scriptures plus the wind of the Spirit that brings new life.

This devotional is pivotal to everything that follows.  As I write about the ten profile characteristics of a spiritual orphan, I come up against one stronghold after another.  It will easily be overwhelming without the assurance that the spiritual power of the Word, and the Spirit, combine to offer deliverance and a change to a way of life that has defined me for the breadth of my lifetime.  I can not only know the truth but feel the truth.

The wind of the Spirit is already at work in your heart. Can you sense it?  He’s been stirring up need and preparing the soil for the reception of the Word to come.  When something clicks in the coming weeks, when you have an ‘a-ha’ moment, remember that the Holy Spirit is giving you understanding of the scriptures.  The Word will become precious to you and the Spirit will write a new message on the pillars on your life’s foundation.

  For all the scriptures I’ve known but felt little, I’m asking Your Holy Spirit to prepare to write them on my heart.  Blow over my barren landscape.  Amen

That which is born of the flesh is flesh.  That which is born of the Spirit is spirit.  John 3:6

Birth is preceded by conception.  Whether physical birth or spiritual birth, there are parents involved.  So what did Jesus mean when He talked about flesh and spirit with respect to the new birth?

To be born physically, the union of a man and a woman are necessary.  Coming from them, I resemble them.  I have their DNA in my bones.  I have my grandmother’s nose, my aunt’s musical ability, my father’s gentle spirit, my mother’s gift of compassion, and a combination of their gestures and facial movements.  That’s why Jesus said, ‘That which is born of the flesh is flesh.’

To be born spiritually, there is also a birth by a parent.  A new Father calls me His child.  He touches my dead spirit and brings it to life.  I’m given a new nature, His nature.  I’m given undeserved righteousness, His righteousness. Begotten of God, I become like the One who gave me a spiritual birth.  That’s why Jesus said, ‘That which is born of the Spirit is spirit.’

But, am I more like my earthly parents or my Heavenly Father?”  If I’ve been born again, my second birth is to trump the first.  The second birth is to re-define my whole identity.  It is meant to re-shape whatever has been disfigured by formation inside a human family.  My perfect Father intends to re-parent me.  He’s eager to fix what was broken and mature what was stunted.  He blesses the righteous seeds of my parents while challenging the sinful legacies. That creates friction ~ both in me, and in my family.  Yet, this is what spiritual growth involves.

I can pray the sinner’s prayer, call myself a child of God, but never engage in a Father/daughter relationship. I do not experience His endearing ways. From lack of intimacy, I don’t become like the One who gave me spiritual life.  I cling to the patterns, habits, and beliefs of my earthly family.  My history normalized their dysfunction and it feels uncomfortable to step out of line.  My family might not like it if I honor Jesus before them.  I will potentially lose favor.

Yet, this is the call.  I am to leave father and mother to follow God.  ‘The family way of doing things’ is to no longer bind me if ‘the family way’ is out of step with the kingdom.

I don’t like not fitting in.  I am uncomfortable with criticism, especially from family. Your likeness is what I seek so give me grace for whatever friction my follow.  Amen

You are a teacher of Israel and you do not know these things?  John 3:10

Nicodemus sought Jesus’ company at night for a spiritual conversation.  There has been so much speculation as to why he came under cover of darkness.  Maybe he was afraid for his physical safety to be seen with Jesus, or nighttime was his only opportunity.  Perhaps it would be detrimental to his profession as an important religious leader to keep company with someone controversial.  Whatever the reason, he was curious.  Nicodemus was a ‘ruler of the Jews’.  This was the modern day equivalent of a supreme court justice.  Imagine one of our high ranking judges going to seek legal wisdom from a blue collar laborer.  Most unusual.

Nicodemus came with a breadth of knowledge and yet he couldn’t understand the simplest of spiritual concepts.  Jesus talked of being born again but this ruler of the Jews was confused.  He scratched his head and asked Jesus how such a thing could be for someone who had already been born.  Jesus’ response is that it really was possible to be a scholar of the scriptures and yet a babe in the most important spiritual matters.  Education can be dangerous.  It gives a false sense of mastery and invites one to deny any need for spiritual enlightenment.  Whether a babe or seasoned bible professor, each of us is a beggar in want of spiritual understanding.  Each of us needs the daily help of a Teacher and Counselor.  None of us can know a passage well enough to personalize it in an attempt to understand ourselves and Jesus better.

Familiarity with the scriptures is a bad foundation for spiritual growth.  It was for Nicodemus and it is for me.  I can breeze through a passage like John chapter 3 and assume I know the synopsis.  I don’t take the time to read verses I memorized long ago to seek God’s help to grasp their meaning.  No matter the passage, no matter the familiarity, there are always new layers of truth to impact my heart.  I will not be able to discover them on my own through hours and hours of study.  Only through the inspiration of the Spirit.

Have you recently re-discovered verses and found them to be like new?  You always thought you knew what they meant but have come to realize they meant something else entirely.  I suspect that what opened your eyes was spiritual need and a calling upon God to make them real.  Seeing my need is a pre-requisite for spiritual understanding. My list for such scriptures is too lengthy to share.  At mid-life, I discovered that I knew little of who Jesus was.  I had studied Him but not lived with Him intimately.  It wasn’t until there was intimacy that the scriptures came alive.

What is the new birth?  I didn’t really start to get it until a decade ago when God began to speak to me about the difference between an ‘orphan’ and a ‘daughter’.  It is possible to be His daughter without living like one.  God is calling all orphans out of the slums.

We are Nicodemus. We come to you like sponges.  Teach us.  Amen