Author: Christine Wyrtzen

A soul tie is an unholy connection between people. The foundation of this toxic connection is a mutual commitment to meet each other’s needs in a way that circumvents the sufficiency of Christ. 

Connection isn’t wrong.  We were designed by God to interact and bond with Him first, and then, with each other.  Scripture says that we are capable of being knit together.  …that their hearts may be encouraged, having been knit together in love, and attaining to all the wealth that comes from the full assurance of understanding, resulting in a true knowledge of God’s mystery, that is, Christ Himself.  Colossians 2:2   

The problem is ~ if the ‘knitting together is not of God, it is an holy thing.  God is to be ‘the cake’ and people are to be ‘the icing.’  I am to look to God first for what I need and people around me are to be supplemental resources.  But when I make people ‘the cake’ and God ‘the icing’, idolatry is set up to run its course.  It ends bitterly as each person in the relationship comes up against the other one’s sinfulness and personal limits. 

This is what it looks like in the body/soul/spirit illustration. Two people with large souls (and little Spirit influence) are relating to each other soul to soul. Needs and wants scream for attention and demand fulfillment. Each is willing to oblige the other because it feels good to each one for different reasons.  One usually needs the other while the other thrives on being needed.  The influence of the Spirit, who desires to purify the relationship, is way in the background because He has essentially been minimized in influence.  God has to give each of us the grace to follow Him first and possibly sustain another’s anger when we no longer jump at their bidding.

Tomorrow, we’ll start exploring kinds of soul ties.  Adult children and parents.  Older adults and deceased parents.  Parents and young children.  And, people in ministry and those they serve.  

I am often asked the question, ‘How many times do I need to pray for generational influences to no longer be in effect?’  It is an important question because false expectations invite disappointment and disillusionment.  The power of the Gospel to save should never be in doubt.  God will change anyone willing to live cross-centered.  

There are two things I’ll say about this. 

1. Generational sins are committed for two reasons:  There’s power in the temptation because of family history.  And, the person who commits the sin exercises his free will to engage with it.  

Yes, the effects of generational sin bring demonic power into family lines but when it combines with our own flesh, it creates a formidable combination.  Getting free from it must also be two fold: We must pray for the blood of Christ to wash sinful effects from our bloodline and we must followup up with intentional obedience. 

For instance, if I pray for generational immorality to be broken in the life of my adult son, it will not disappear from his life because of my one prayer.  But I will see the power of the temptation lessened!  With demonic influence stilled, my son will find it easier to acknowledge his sin and turn away from it. 

2.   Generational prayers should be prayed as long as we see evidence of the bad fruit.  In the rather long list of generational sins that I included in yesterday’s devotional (and also below in today’s email), many boxes were probably checked.  Some were more predominant than others.  For those that have been sporadic, praying once could suffice.  For the top three however, it will require tenacious intercession.

Bottom line ~  Breaking the power of generational influences is the beginning of freedom. After that, the Gospel will change people but only with yielded participants. 

In families, grievous sins are passed down through ancestral lines and are usually repeated even though the next generation often has no idea what their ancestors did. The predisposition is ‘in the blood.’  

When I begin a relationship with a new doctor’s office, I’m handed a stack of paperwork.  They want to know my family history.  It’s an accepted fact that whom I am related to, by bloodline, determines predispositions toward certain diseases.  Just as we receive an inheritance of physical traits from our parents, we also receive a spiritual inheritance from our family line.  This includes righteous and unrighteous bents.  This does not mean that children are charged with guilt for the sins of their parents…just that the sins of parents do have an adverse effect on their children and open the door for similar patterns of sin. The children are left more vulnerable to the enemy’s work.  

New blood flow is needed to repair physical wounds, and new blood flow is also needed to repair spiritual wounds. There is no human blood source that has the power to wash a family bloodline clean.  Only one person’s blood can do that.  It’s Jesus’ blood and He freely offers it. He longs for us to apply the cleansing power of His sacrifice to our ancestral line. There need not be insidious generational influences looming over our families any longer. I need not stand by and watch the consequences of my family’s sin hurt my children and grandchildren. I can stop the unholy legacy from continuing by applying the blood of Christ to each generational pattern that holds my family captive. By doing this, Christ cancels out the effects that were caused by the sins of those who came before me.  What a gracious Savior!

I am providing a generational sin handout – below – as a way to begin to explore your past.  As you prayerfully examine the list, ask God to show you how many of these are characteristics within your family line.  Jesus Christ is the one who redeems you from the curse (Galatians 3:13-14), and can break the effect of any ancestral sins that may be influencing you today. 

PRAYER: Father, I am coming to You in the name of Your Son, Jesus. I long to be free from the unholy, invisible influences of family. I recognize patterns in my family that are unrighteous. I declare the power of your shed blood, demonstrated at the cross, over each of them. I thank you that you appeared to destroy the devil’s work. (1 John 3:8)  Teach us as a family how to live as Your children rather than the obedient children of fallen flesh and blood. In Jesus’ name, Amen

Without knowing our blind spots, others experience the elephant in the room we bring along with us.  We must ask God to reveal what others see but, for some reason, we do not. We can’t afford to be like the Israelites described in Hosea. They were void of strength but saw themselves as powerful. They were weak but feigned virility. They spurned their need for God yet believed themselves to be in His favor.

Aliens have devoured his strength, but he does not know it; yes, gray hairs are here and there on him, yet he does not know it. And the pride of Israel testifies to his face, but they do not return to the LORD their God, nor seek Him for all this. Hosea 7:8-10

Blind spots are frightening. Have you ever had dinner with someone and thought, “Boy, he talks a lot, but he is oblivious.” Everyone at the table is polite, giving him their attention, yet he is unaware of how he is being experienced. Or perhaps you are part of an intimate Bible Study and one member of your circle is negative. Everyone there is braced for her arrival, knowing the atmosphere will change when she enters the room. She also is unaware of the toxicity that is specific to her.

There are five blind spots I’d like to highlight over the next few days.  Each is something we probably suffer from but might not have thought about before.  Consequently, those blind spots oppress us in ways we haven’t identified.  They have also compromised our fence line. 

In Christ, we are promised deliverance from all five.  But like all areas of captivity, the path to freedom is cooperative.  Jesus offers it, but I must be a willing participant, turning away from what is unrighteous to pursue holiness. I must chase the things of the kingdom, plunging into the depths of Christ and coveting the robes of righteousness that He offers to put around my shoulders.  Christ’s transforming power is here now.  There is no need to live with blind spots and unseen elephants.

I’m a visual person.  I see concepts in pictures, and God is kind to bring truth, oftentimes in the form of visuals.  I have heard throughout my life that we are made up of three parts; body, soul, and spirit.  Their meanings were vague.  How does each part engage in the spiritual battle we face every day?   

The body ~ I understand.  It is flesh and blood.  It is mortal and subject to decay.  Satan inflicts disease, dysfunction, and, eventually, death, which is the final curse.

The soul ~ is our inner self. Our personality, our likes, dislikes, desires,  beliefs, goals and ambitions.  At birth, our soul is definitely in charge.  It is out to get its needs met.  We are selfish to the core.  The war of the flesh that Paul describes in his writings takes place in the landscape of the soul.  It is all-encompassing.   It looks like this. 

The spirit ~ is the place inside each believer where the Holy Spirit comes to dwell at the time of our salvation.  He moves in and witnesses to our spirit that we are God’s children.  The spirit is dead and useless to us until Jesus touches it and brings it from death to life.  It looks like this. 

However, it is apparent that proportionately, something needs to happen for the influence of the Spirit to rule the soul and to conquer the flesh.  The soul is so large and the spirit part of us is so tiny in comparison.  

For the message about the cross is foolishness to those who are perishing, but to us who are being saved it is the power of God.  I Corinthians 1:18 

The salvation Paul references is not the moment of salvation when we first believe.  He said we are ‘being saved’.  From the flesh.  This is a daily occurrence and is called sanctification.  What happens?  The influence of the Spirit, in our spirit, comes against the flesh and begs submission to God’s ways.  Every day, there are hundreds of opportunities to choose God’s way over my own way.   

Consider this last picture.  The internal world has shifted significantly.  The spirit is no longer small. What had to happen for the spirit to grow?  I worshipped. I studied the Word. I learned to meditate on it. I obeyed and followed Jesus in daily decisions.  My spirit increased in size and influence. Spiritual maturity is to live with a fattened spirit. James, Jesus’ half-brother, said, “Receive the word implanted which is able to save your soul.”  James 1:21  

Tony Evans said, “We must raise the cross above our own soul and hold a daily funeral.”  I love this.  It is daily.  God’s will over my will.  Deferring instead of rebelling.  Paul said, “For the word of God is living and active, sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing to the division of soul and of spirit, of joints and of marrow, and discerning the thoughts and intentions of the heart.” Hebrews 4:12

The Word divides soul and spirit.  It challenges what I want from what God’s will is for me.  It creates a juncture where a choice must be made.  I follow Jesus and watch my inner landscape conform to His image or I choose the way of my flesh and see the Spirit’s influence diminish.  Ask God to show you a picture of your inner world.  How fat is your spirit?  Are our churches made up of parishioners with puny little spirits?  The flesh is in charge.  Sanctification is choked out by the weeds of the flesh.  May it not be.  

I want to live by the Spirit.  Fully live.  A tree planted by streams of water that will not wither.  It will not break when the storms of life come.  To God be the glory.

4. Submit to God and then resist the devil.

Submit yourselves therefore to God; resist the devil and he will flee from you.  James 4:7

I’ve left the best till last.  The most powerful way to use authority is to exercise it in a way that facilitates holiness and repels evil.  Here are the two directives from James.  

Submit.  Resist.  

Both are deliberate.  Both require full commitment to follow through.  

To submit is to surrender any place where I’ve held back an area of my life in order to exercise control over it.  I’ve rejected God’s control and perverted authority. Rebellion creates an open door to the enemy. 

But when I pursue God with my whole heart, when I am smitten by His loveliness and decide to live in His presence, resisting is easy and instinctive. I smell something foul a mile away. That’s because chasing God relentlessly culminates in an aversion to the devil.  I will not just object to his temptations; they will repulse me.  I will react with bile in my throat to his suggestions.  

Resisting is an aggressive term in Greek ~ like throwing someone off my property who is coming to do me harm. Self-centered autonomy makes me unable to resist, while submitting to God enables it. 

A holy life builds impenetrable fence lines.  God-chasers hate sin and long to kill it.  Timbers on the ground get repaired and nailed upright.  Never have I exercised spiritual authority in a more powerful way than when I submit my whole self to God and resist evil.  The kingdom of darkness loses ground and the kingdom of God is advanced.  My choices matter!

3. Renounce the lies that kill your faith. 

Satan’s primary activities include lying and accusing.  He lies to us about God and accuses us of things before our Father.  Jesus, our Defender and Advocate, reminds him that our sins have been forgiven.  He puts the enemy in his place. 

But when he lies to us, do we agree with God?  Or is Satan so artful that we cave to his arguments?  Here are some examples of lies and accusations.

You are a failure and are of no use to God or the church.

You are an embarrassment.  Keep quiet or you’ll be humiliated. 

It’s a waste of time to confess your sins because God isn’t listening. 

You are inferior to other believers. 

You are a hopeless victim of your past. 

Who you are now is who you will always be.  Forget dreaming of being different.

God is so disappointed in you and you can never earn His approval.

Do any of these sound familiar?  Throughout my life, I believe I’ve heard them all, depending on what season I was living.  Given the relentless nature of our enemy’s attacks, we know that he doesn’t come at us just once.  These accusations come often, and as long as they are effective, he will repeat them.  He knows that if he can get us to give mental space to these and rehearse them internally, they will grow exponentially and turn into strongholds.  

How do we deal with a lie before it does mental and emotional damage?  Let me offer a 2-part process.

1. Capture it and take it captive.  Focus on it with the Holy Spirit’s help.  Decide if you’re willing to disown it and believe God over people.
2. Kill it with the Sword of the Word.  Renounce it out loud with specific scriptures that expose it as false. It will sound like this:  

I used to believe _____________________, but Your Word says _________________.  Though it feels true, I know it’s not.  I repent for believing it, I renounce it, and choose to believe You, Lord.  

You’ve exchanged the enemy’s lie for God’s truth.  The stronghold is broken, the torment from the lie is removed, and peace will move in.   If the lie has held you captive for much of your life, you may need to process this with Spirit-led friends or a pastoral counselor.  God promises freedom but we must seek it.  

2. Put on the armor.

The night is far gone; the day is at hand.  So then let us cast off the works of darkness and put on the armor of light.  Romans 13:12  

God is not capable of being a neglectful Father.  He provides everything we need – no matter what it is.  Protection from enemies we can’t see coming is at the top of His priority list.  We fight invisible enemies with invisible weapons.  We wear them by faith and believe they are effective because God said so!

How do I put on the armor my Father has provided?  And what does each piece mean?  I offer the following as a daily template prayer.  

Lord, I put on the helmet of salvation.  Protect my thoughts.  Bind my mind to Yours.  Conform all my thoughts to Your thoughts.

I put on the breastplate of righteousness.  Protect my heart, my most vital organ.  Conform my desires to Your desires.  I long to love what You love and hate what You hate today.

I put on the belt of truth.  No matter what comes at me, I make a vow to stand in Truth.  Expose deception quickly so that I can plant my feet in the foundation of what is safe and secure, Your very Words.

I put on the shoes of peace.  The terrain of my life can be slippery and hard to maneuver.  I often don’t know how to be a righteous peacemaker.  Don’t let me love peace more than truth, Lord.  Show me today when peace is needed and when truth is more important than peace.  

I take up the shield of faith.  I am adjusting my mindset to believe You today, even when it seems ludicrous.  I believe You even though You may look guilty.  No matter what, no matter whom, I choose to believe You;  I’ll believe who You say I am, who You say You are, and how life works in the kingdom.

I take up the sword of the Spirit.  Make me a marksman with the Word.  I anticipate the areas where I will be tempted today.  Give me a few scriptures that target my temptations.  I will write them out, Lord, and have them ready for that hour.  When your enemy comes and the compulsion to sin is in front of my face, I will open my mouth and read Your Words out loud.  You promised the enemy would flee.  Arm me with these strategic arrows on my tongue.  You will hear the snarl of a defeated foe as he retreats.  

Oh, how you care for me.  I avail myself of everything You used to fight in the wilderness.  To You be all glory.  Amen

1. Sanctify Your Space 

Cursed is the ground because of you; in pain you shall eat of it all the days of your life; thorns and thistles it shall bring forth for you; and you shall eat the plants of the field. By the sweat of your face you shall eat bread, till you return to the ground, for out of it you were taken; for you are dust, and to dust you shall return.” Genesis 3:17-19 

God initiated a curse upon the earth because sin had brought about desperate consequences for Adam and Eve and their children.  The very planet that God created for them to subdue would start holding them captive.  What was cursed needed to be cleansed and sanctified, once again set apart for the glory of God.

Because the land still feels the effects of man’s sin, it holds the memory of whatever has been done to it.  God’s original purpose for His creation (including the land) was that it glorify Him, as well as bless and sustain the people He created.  But man’s sin defiled it, and if we are collectively responsible, it follows that we are also critical to the healing and restoration of the land.  If my people who are called by my name humble themselves, and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven and will forgive their sin and heal their land. 2 Chronicles 7:14  

In the Canadian Arctic, a very moving reconciliation ceremony was held between the original inhabitants of the land and those who came afterward to settle there. As the newcomers repented and rededicated a particular plot of land, they were overwhelmed with God’s immediate response. Although caribou (a mainstay of life) had been scarce in the area for nearly four years, suddenly, 15,000 caribou showed up two days later. The caribou spontaneously gathered on the very spot where the land had been rededicated.

The power of God to heal and restore is released through repentance. Old Testament reformers like Hezekiah and Josiah repented and cleansed the land from defilement and they prospered.  We also must pray through our homes, pray over our properties, and repent for whatever has happened there. Wherever sin has been committed, residue remains and our land holds the scars.

God longs to bless His children.  We must actively rule over every place the sole of our foot treads.  Many today, because of reading this, will spiritually cleanse their homes and feel a powerful difference as they experience a peace never before felt on the land they own.  God is true to His Word. “Fear not, O land; be glad and rejoice, for the Lord has done great things! Fear not, you beasts of the field, for the pastures of the wilderness are green; the tree bears its fruit; the fig tree and vine give their full yield.  Joel 2:21-22

God raised Christ from the dead and seated him at his right hand in the heavenly places, far above all rule and authority and power and dominion, and every name that is named, not only in this world but also in the one to come. And he put all things under his feet.  Ephesians 1:21-22

Jesus defeated Satan on the cross legally, but we must actualize what Jesus legalized through His death.  He, like Joshua, is saying, “You must put your feet on the necks of my enemies even though I’ve already won the victory.”   God did His part, we must do our part.  If something is needed to complete it, God will finish it.  

That’s why the children of Israel were told to march around the wall seven times.  They obeyed, and then God activated the miracle by bringing the walls down.   He could have done it all without their involvement but He didn’t design mankind to be passive.  From the creation of Adam, the mission was clear.  Rule and subdue the earth. 

Consider a policeman who directs traffic.  He holds up his hand – cars stop.  He blows a whistle and points to the right – cars turn to the right.  Is he physically strong enough to move a car where it should go?  No, but he wears the badge that represents the authority he serves.  Perhaps that is why we instinctively take our foot off the gas and slightly brake at the sight of a police car.  We react to the authority of the one in the car before we ever see the person. 

We are powerless without the God of Israel behind us.  We are no match for an invisible enemy with an army behind him.  We would be defenseless, but instead, we are defended.  We would hide, but instead, we are equipped to expose.  We would retreat, but instead, we are told to advance.  We would be small and easily overtaken, but we are mighty and invincible because the Almighty stands behind us.   He has our back, but only as we use authority as it was intended ~ subject to the will of God.  It is never to be self-serving.

Adrian Rogers said this: Kingdom Authority is the God-given mandate of Christians to exercise control over the world in the name of Jesus and under His oversight.